We have been thinking about this one a lot and so we asked around friends and acquaintances for their ideas on what it is to feel normal too. The consensus has been that normal is just our every day state of being that we experience when things are not at the extreme ends of feeling but more mid level. In fact, words often used were ‘boring’, ‘mundane’ ‘run-of-the-mill’ ‘conventional’ and ‘unexceptional’.   Actually, most people we asked commented that normal was often a difficult place. That they expected normal to be a slightly depressed state. It seems that we live with the expectation that normal is to feel low or suppressed. Our modern western culture has become disconnected from our wholeness of being.


We have come to expect struggle. We are told that life is hard, that we should work in jobs we don’t love to pay the bills or to consume goods we are told we need. Spiritual health has been replaced by material wealth. Our gods and guides have been replaced by the next new thing, be it a house, car, TV, laptop, mobile phone or this seasons latest fashion item.

This suppressed feeling isn’t wrong to feel- it is just our expectation of it that is out of balance. We have forgotten somewhere along the way what our true range of normal really is. We have become disconnected from feelings of contentment, joy and ecstasy in that we expect these feelings to be difficult to obtain, and when they are reached, they will pass all too quickly. Yet we don’t feel this about feeling suppressed, we expect to feel that way and that not feeling it is unusual.

We both found our ways to ecstasy when we joined the rave scene many, many years ago. Life was pretty hard for both of us and the all night parties gave us two main things. Firstly, it afforded us a sense of belonging. We found our tribe full of every kind of wonderful, quirky souls with who we could stamp our prayers into the floor to rhythmic beats and sweat out everything into the collective catharsis.

Secondly we took drugs to try to connect to our ecstasy and to open our bruised and battered hearts. We wanted to soar above what we were expected to experience day to day and we longed for ecstatic connection. The problem was, we found taking drugs to experience this connection just wasn’t sustainable. We came up but we had to come down, and it was exhausting. Burnt out, we left the drugs behind and with it we lost our tribe and our means to stomp it out into the earth.

The truth is though that the ecstasy and suppression are NORMAL states for our bodies feel. It is why we have the capacity to experience them ALL. We just need to find a way to shift our expectations and one, simple, easily accessible way to do this is to dance it. We both found Ecstatic Awakening Dance at different times but we both had a very similar reaction to our very first sessions. We hit a level of ecstasy we didn’t really know existed without chemical stimulation and both realised that ecstasy was our right to feel whenever we needed it. And that ecstasy was obtainable without drugs, or alcohol or materialistic things. We just needed to notice what was arising and to allow our bodies to express and move it all on. In those first classes we felt a full spectrum of feelings, sometimes frustration, joy, sadness, trepidation to name just a few but once we’d danced them, all that was left was a feeling of serenity and gladness we’d not felt for a very long time. Ecstatic Awakening Dance and the Wild Chocolate Club has given us a means to experience our whole range of normal.



Our feelings are all normal and underneath all those feelings lies this state of ecstatic completeness.

All cultures, schools of thought, and rituals are based on this idea of coming together in our tribe or community periodically to experience these euphoric states. Many of these practices have been forgotten and lost.

Our work through the Wild Chocolate Club and our Teacher Training is simply to remember, to come together and celebrate in our community.